How To Deal With A Miscarriage
A miscarriage is highly traumatic. If you’ve just had one, our hearts go out to you.
You planned for a newborn child to come into your life, and it ended due to no fault of your own. If you feel a lot of heavy grief – that’s normal.
Remember this. A miscarriage, however bad it may feel, is NOT your fault. It’s something that happens to you. It’s not something that you do.
Because it happens to you, try not to put pressure on yourself and feel guilty. Sure you should allow yourself to feel the emotions that come up, but if you’re feeling guilty for an entirely natural process you had zero control over whatsoever, realise you are causing yourself unnecessary pain.
A miscarriage is something your body does – and your body has its own wisdom. You need to remember that. Many times, our bodies are much smarter than we are. We may think we’re totally ready to have a child, but maybe we’re not. Maybe our bodies’ sense something wrong in the world that has nothing to do with us. For one reason or another, it feels like ending the pregnancy is necessary.
If you feel at risk of a miscarriage
If you feel like you are at risk for a miscarriage, or you’re feeling like one may be happening to you, it’s crucial you see Dr John Bailey right away. He has all the tools and knowledge to tell you exactly what’s going on.
And if you do end up having a miscarriage, he’ll also inform you of the next steps you can take. After you have a miscarriage, you often need to avoid sexual activity for a few weeks, and rest up. It’s certainly possible to get pregnant after a miscarriage, but listen to Dr Bailey’s advice, as he’ll tell you everything you need to know.
Helping your partner
A miscarriage is traumatic for both you and your partner, because you both had hopes and dreams for your child, and for the time being, those are put on hold. It’s very likely that both you and your partner will deal with the miscarriage differently. No one is right or wrong in the way they cope with loss.
So although you might be in a lot of pain, realise your partner is too. Be there for your partner, and encourage them to be there for you. Don’t be afraid to really talk about it and let your emotions out. Doing so is very healthy and will help you recover as quickly as possible.
Knowing when to try again
Just because you’ve had a miscarriage doesn’t mean you can’t conceive again. Many, many women who have had miscarriages have no issue getting pregnant again. Listen to Dr Bailey’s advice for how long you should wait until you try again.
Also keep your emotional state in mind. Don’t try again until you’re ready. Realise that stress has a lot of negative impacts on your body. If you’re stressed and worried about having another miscarriage it may be more difficult for you to have a healthy pregnancy.
So allow yourself to heal fully and KNOW that you’re ready. When you clearly know in your heart it’s time to try again, that’s also likely the time your body is ready to as well.
Speak to Hunter Women’s Health to find out the best ways of dealing with the grief of having a miscarriage and how to take to the next steps to try again.